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Just about every female has been the other woman at some point during her dating experience. Whether or not being a mistress was by choice or by chance, sharing a man with another woman is rarely the ideal relationship situation. With so many females feeling like the options are diminishing when it comes to finding a completely committed relationship, settling for a portion of one doesn't seem all that bad. So the question becomes, if you meet a man and develop a fondness for him, and he is not ready to be exclusively yours, do you walk away or wait around for him to get bitten by the commitment bug? Some may be divided on the issue, but those who choose to pursue the situation should walk in with both eyes open. Men and women commit for different reasons. And although a man may not be ready to settle down, that doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Unfortunately, it also doesn't mean he will love only you. If you opt to become involved in an open relationship, be sure to make the decision based the reality of the situation. No commitment means no obligation.

Make sure both of you understand what your situation entails before you dive in headfirst. Come to an understanding about whether you plan to be intimate friends, friends with benefits or just engage in the benefits and leave the friendship thing alone. Going forward with a relationship without putting your expectations out in the open is like signing a contract without reading the fine print. It's important to know what you're getting into.

Check your feelings, because casual dating is different from being exclusively involved. There is less room for strong emotional attachments. If your feelings begin to change, then what you are receiving emotionally and mentally from that particular relationship may no longer meet your expectations. Which means that situation is no longer right for you.

It is important in any relationship to be honest and forthcoming, with not just your partner, but with your self as well. Taking the time to really decide if a person is right for you is a must. Ultimately, you have to determine if you want Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now. -jamana jamison

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